One of the most helpful books I’ve read on apologetics is Greg Koukl’s Tactics. The book’s back-cover promise reads: “Tactics teaches you how to maneuver comfortably and graciously as you share your faith with others. Learn how to navigate the mine fields, stop challengers in their tracks, turn the tables and—most importantly—get people thinking about Jesus. Tactics gives you the game plan for communicating the compelling truth about Christianity with both confidence and grace.” In my judgment, the book keeps those promises.

One of the main tools Koukl suggests we use is careful questioning. In other words, the questions shouldn’t flow only one direction, i.e., from skeptics toward Christians. There are a whole bunch of questions we ought to ask them! I’ll let you read Koukl for yourself (or join the Sunday evening class!) to get the details on what types of questions to use, how to craft them, and when to use them. But I will give you a sample of the types of questions he suggests and some that I’ve learned to use in my own conversations with skeptics:

What do you mean by that? (one of Koukl’s favorites – a great question to gather more information and momentarily take some of the pressure off you)

How did you come to that conclusion? Why do you say that? What are your reasons for holding that view? (great questions to help you discern if their views are adequately supported; also a wonderful demonstration of respect and sincere interest)

What do you mean by “God”? Can you explain to me exactly what kind of God you reject? What kind of evidence would you find acceptable for proof of God’s existence?

Have you read much of Jesus’ own words and teachings? Have you found anything He said that’s especially compelling or especially bothersome to you?

How do you think we can find reliable facts about something? Why does that seem like a credible source to you?

Do you think that if God exists, He could use people to write down exactly what He wants? Why, or why not?

Can you tell me why you think if something is genetic, it must be right?  Or, do you think any behavior is morally appropriate simply because it has a genetic link?

It’s wonderfully helpful instruction, and I’d highly encourage you to pursue this to be able to help people think clearly.